|Nathaniel Brandon, PhD
author of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
"The techniques of EP have provided me with invaluable tools for working with trauma. No therapist can afford to remain ignorant of this new and exciting field."
|Bruce Lipton, PhD
Author of The Biology of Belief.
"EFT is a simple, powerful process that can profoundly influence gene activity, health and behavior."
Co-Author of The Promise of Energy Psychology.
"EFT is easy, effective, and produces amazing results. I think it should be taught in elementary school."
Author of The Unmistakable Touch of Grace.
"EFT is destined to be a top healing tool for the 21st Century."
|Bessel Van der Kolk
Professor of Psychiatry, Boston University School of Medicine
"EP techniques and procedures can bring about remarkably rapid changes in the way people feel."
|Candace Pert, PhD
Author of Molecules of Emotion.
"EFT is at the forefront of the new healing movement."
|Norm Shealy, MD
Author of Soul Medicine.
"By removing emotional trauma, EFT helps heal physical symptoms too."
|Eric Robins, MD
Co-author of Your Hands Can Heal you.
"I frequently use EFT for my patients with great results."
"This really works... I've had great results with tapping in my own life."
|Deepak Chopra, MD
"EFT offers great healing benefits."
"The most powerful new transformational technology to come along in years."
"If you're looking for ways to change your life, check out Energy Psychology, it's pretty extraordinary."
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Healing Past Relationships with EFT Heals Present Ones
Dear EFT Community,
The behaviors of our relationship partners usually bother us only because they resemble childhood situations. When those early specific events are addressed with EFT, the current conflict is often automatically resolved, as this story shows.
-Dawson Church, PhD
Claudette, a woman in her mid-twenties, was asked as part of an exercise at an EFT workshop, to find a minor annoyance to tap on.
She said that her annoyance was that her partner Jim "doesn't pull his weight around the housework."
When asked to tune in to what she felt in her body when thinking about Jim and housework, she said she felt pressure in her head.
I asked her about the earliest time she had ever felt such pressure, and she described times when, as a little girl, she watched her father and uncles lounging around the house while her mother did all the housework and waited on them.
She pictured several specific occasions when this occurred.
"I was so angry," she said; "they sat around watching my mother work, drinking and talking."
She tapped on her emotional intensity till each of these scenes was a zero.
"Tell me again about Jim and housework," I asked.
"He actually does quite a lot," she said. "The real problem is me. I'm too demanding, always ragging on him. saying that he doesn't pull his weight around the house."
I wryly observed that the chances of having a long and successful relationship had just increased dramatically! Jim hadn't changed one iota. By going to the source of her pain and tapping on that, Claudette had defused one of the detonators that threatened to blow up their relationship.
To see some of the phrases that we recommend you use to make the link between adult annoyances and childhood events, see Tutorial #4: The Importance of Being Specific.