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A 4-Word Phrase that Often Clears DepressionEFT Manual by Dawson Church

Dear EFT Community,

EFT Expert practitioner and trainer, Valerie Lis, suggests a simple, sometimes provocative tapping phrase that can discover hidden aspects and lead to resolution.


By Valerie Lis, EFT TRN 1-2

When do I use a positive tapping statement? This is a common question from students in my EFT workshops.

My answer, “When the positive is really the negative,” usually results in a blank stare. So I continue with the explanation and- at the same time- reveal a powerful four-word tapping phrase that often clears depression.

To a person who is happy, these four words are simply a statement of fact. But, to someone who is feeling depressed, they are loaded with resistance.

These words have a negative emotional charge and represent the source of their problem. They evoke anger, resentment, frustration, hurt, and sadness. These words stop a person who is depressed from feeling happiness and joy.

The four-word tapping phrase: “I am soooo happy!” is repeated at every tapping point.

It is said out loud and with great enthusiasm. After a few rounds, “I am such a happy person!” may be added. Tapping with one or both of these phrases usually resolves the underlying emotions and begins the recovery process.

"Even though I [state problem or feeling], I am a happy person because I deeply and completely accept myself."

"I am such a happy person."

"I am soooo happy."

"I am such a happy person."

"I am soooo happy."

"I am such a happy person."

"I am soooo happy."

I have had hundreds of clients break through depression using this technique.

It has been interesting to share their experiences. Usually shocked and confused, they cannot believe that I am asking them to lie. They may throw a swear word into the phrase, but they comply.

As they tap, their face changes. Their eyes shift in appearance from dull to sparkling.

After tapping for a few minutes, most say that the words now ring true--they see themselves capable of experiencing happiness. At least, they say, they are open to the possibility.

Of course, using this four-word phrase just begins the process. To clear depression, more tapping should be done over time to look for any hidden aspects.

This is also a clear example on when positive statements should be used. A phrase may create an emotional charge in some people, but not in others. When the phrase has negative results, e.g., when the positive is really the negative, it is a good statement to use.

Understanding this concept helps in the choice of tapping phrases and increases the effectiveness of EFT.



-1 #10 Katie 2016-11-01 12:23
I tried this, although I was skeptical. While it did not make me feel "happy", per se, it did actually lead me to tapping on a lot of repressed memories. Somehow, saying "I'm so happy" over and over actually forced me to face whatever dark feelings were underlying my depressed state, and - BAM! - there was emotional release, cathartic tears, and better understanding of the genesis of some of the issues I've been struggling with for a long time. Really beneficial. Thanks for this!
+1 #9 Wally 2016-10-24 06:03
:-) Just reading the comments lifted my mood. On to the actual tapping. Thank You!
+1 #8 Catherine 2016-10-11 16:55
@ Louise Amse - I tried this tapping method after my mother was diagnosed with dementia and I fell into a deep, deep depression. Using this, I reminded myself to fight against the deep sadness that overtook my life. Tapping and saying these statements reminded me to go through with doing my own self care--even when I did not feel like it. I used EFT to tell myself that I was going to fight to find a way to feel better during these final years of my mother's life. She p[censored]ed this past December and I am so glad I had tapping at my fingertips and I now can remember some wonderful good days with my mom. What is helping me now is an idea for my future which has given me new hope. - Catherine
+4 #7 Louise Amse 2016-10-10 21:16
When a person is in a deep state of depression there is no way they can say " I am so happy" . They can't even say "I am ok". They need to start with something MUCH more truthful. Just tapping on the words "this depression" may ease their anxiety enough to go the next step. I have learned this through experience, both personal and with clients.
+1 #6 Desmond 2016-07-18 13:41
What exactly is Tapping? And how could it get me out of a depression I have had for sixteen years?
0 #5 Patricia 2016-04-17 21:57
Can I use these for surrogate tapping? My young young son has depression and resists any type of help and even talk about it, but in his (secret) writings he admits deep "non stop sadness".
0 #4 Felicia Dale 2015-04-29 16:31
I am so going to try this! Thank you!
0 #3 Douglas James 2015-04-23 10:03
Wow. Fookin' brilliant! I've been in and out of TFT for almost 20 years, but, because of it's reliance on "causal diagnosis" ( aka, muscle testing, which, I would think, would have to be HIGHLY personalized to have the level of effectiveness that Dr. Callahan claimed to achieve, I've had at times awesome but ALWAYS FLEETING success.Then, through Spirit, while browsing through the self-hypnosis/h omeopathy realm of my public library, I came across "The Promise of Energy Psychology" and, for a laugh ( and a fair measure of desperation, might I add ), because it was on EFT, took it home and was STARTLED! What Dr. Callahan claimed, these EFT nuts ( wait for it...) delivered! This led me to purchase the latest edition of the EFT Manual edited by Dawson Church ( great job, Dawson ), and one of the first things that Dawson explains is that simple-minded people like me ( TFT snobs ) try some EFT some hillbilly puts up on YouTube, get great results 2 or 3 times, and figures that EFT is an even bigger hoax than TFT; at least TFT works 40% of the time. I'm not trying to bash TFT; that's not my intent. But as a 23 year old addict in 1996, I purchased Callahan's "The Anxiety-Addicti on Connection". It worked a few times. In "Tapping the Healer Within", Dr. Callahan makes 2(two) caveats where TFT might not be 85% effective for ALL who use the algorithms in the book: schizophrenics and severe drug addicts. Hmmm. EVERYBODY out there has AT LEAST a distant relative ruining their life. Thanks EFT
+1 #2 Kelly Howe 2013-10-01 07:01
I'm going to use this with a client today! Thanks Valerie!
0 #1 Dave Reamy 2013-02-01 17:06
;-)Don't you just love it when something that is OBVIOUSLY "too simple to work" works anyway!? I've been doing simple statements like that with my own EFT for several years.

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