The Importance of Being Specific with EFT


basic recipe in the EFT set up for being specific

By Dawson Church, Phd

During EFT workshops, you'll sometimes see the instructor write "The 3 Most Important Things About EFT" on the board.

Then, under that, they write:

Specific Events
Specific Events
Specific Events

It's our way of driving home the point that a focus on specific events is critical to success in EFT.

In order to release old patterns of emotion and behavior, it's vital to identify and correct the specific events that gave rise to those problems.

When you hear people say, "I tried EFT and it didn't work," the chances are good that they were tapping on generalities, instead of specifics.

An example of a generality is "self-esteem" or "depression" or  "performance problems."

These aren't specific events.

Below these generalities you'll find a collection of specific events. The person with low self-esteem might have been coloring a picture at the age of 4, when her mother walked in and criticized her for drawing outside the lines.

She might have had another experience of a school teacher scolding her for playing with her hair during class during second grade, and a third experience of her first boyfriend deciding to ask another girl to the school dance.

Together, those specific events contribute to the global pattern of low self-esteem.

The way EFT works is that when the emotional trauma of those individual events is resolved, the whole pattern of low self-esteem can shift. If you tap on the big pattern, and forget the specific events, you're likely to have limited success.

When you think about how the big pattern like low self-esteem is established, this makes sense.

It's built up out of many single events. Collectively, the form the whole pattern. The big pattern doesn't spring to life fully formed; it's built up gradually out of many similar experiences.

The memories engraved in your brain are of individual events; one disappointing or traumatic memory at a time is encoded in your memory banks. When enough similar memories have accumulated, their commonalities combine to create a common theme like "poor self-esteem."

Yet the theme originated as a series of specific events, and that's where EFT can be effectively applied.

You don't have to use EFT to every single event that contributes to the global theme.

Usually, once a few of the most disturbing memories have lost their emotional impact, the whole pattern disappears.

Memories that are similar lose their impact once the most vivid memories have been neutralized with EFT.

Tapping on global issues is the single most common mistake newcomers make with EFT. Using lists of tapping phrases from a web site or a book, or tapping on generalities, is far less effective than tuning into the events that contributed to your global problem, and tapping on them.

If you hear someone say, "EFT doesn't work," the chances are good they've been tapping globally rather than identifying specific events.

Don't make this elementary mistake.

List the events, one after the other, that stand out most vividly in your mind when you think about the global problem.

Tap on each of them, and you'll usually find the global problem diminishing of its own accord.

This is called the "generalization effect," and it's one of the key concepts in EFT.

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0 #9 Michael Luft 2015-05-05 13:30
Are all things related to some emotional trauma? My knees hurt. It dramatically effects my life. My knees hurt because there is no cartilage left. Part of that is due to my obesity. Where is the trauma?
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0 #8 Alan 2015-05-03 08:17
For those who say that this does not work--it does work--it just takes time. You have to be patient. I asked Marguerita Vorobioff once, how long I should tap for money, that I want more money to come into my life with the help of EFT. She responded that I would see results coming, but to be patient with it and not quit. I began to see patterns in the way I treat money, spend it and felt I didn't deserve a better life so I tapped on where those beliefs came from. I've experienced amazing transformations in how I deal with money and self-worth.
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0 #7 Sherry 2014-12-26 14:37
Quoting caroline barnes:
Danni, you could first tap the phrase 'even though I dont know the specific event' and you will find the thoughts come to you. .tap on each new memory/thought as its unlocked and bobs your uncle


I would like to confirm this question, as many individuals/act ually most do not know the specific event.
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-1 #6 caroline barnes 2014-05-01 04:16
Danni, you could first tap the phrase 'even though I dont know the specific event' and you will find the thoughts come to you. .tap on each new memory/thought as its unlocked and bobs your uncle
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0 #5 mark kram 2014-04-30 08:44
Some people:

Dawson Church of EFT Universe sent me a link today (2014-04-30) and when I read it I felt I had learned something more about EFT. He stated that sometimes at workshops the instructor will write on the board, “the three most important things about EFT are”

specific events
specific events
specific events

I love people that send me information that enhances me as a human being. Thank you Dawson.
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+4 #4 Danni 2014-04-17 23:27
I am new to EFT and was interested in what you say about tapping for specific events rather than general things like depression. What if you don't remember the specific event? What do you do then?
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0 #3 Joe Farquhar 2014-04-13 18:30
I have literally been using EFT for years, but other than occasional short term relief, it didn't really seem to work for me. Then I began to understand the importance of getting to the specifics. Although I am still learning, I have had more success in the past few weeks than all the years before. :-)
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-1 #2 Roselie Vereberyi 2014-04-07 06:44
I am new to the program.
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0 #1 Michelle Guagliardo 2014-04-01 17:13
:-? Hello,
I am new to EFT, I am practicing to do it when I am able.
Do you tap continuously or use any certain rhythm ?
Thank you
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