Last Updated: Tuesday, 26 August 2014 20:55
Working on Hoarding with Matrix Reimprinting
Dear EFT Community,
By Marion Blique
Hoarding things, procrastinating, not moving forward and wasting time. (“I hoard time but don’t use it...”) were some of the main complaints from John, a young man in his early 40s. He wanted to do many things, but just didn’t.
His wife couldn’t invite any guests or family to their house, because it was packed with things that John had bought, found here and there, never used, but kept “just in case.”
Boxes and piles of stuff were everywhere… in the bedroom, dining room. A storage shed was even built in the garden.
It was taking a toll on his relationship with everybody as you might imagine. His wife, his parents, and his in-laws tried to reason with him, but to no avail. John was also very dissatisfied with his job but was not able to start looking for another one. We all at some point encounter clients with similar problems.
When I work with hoarders and procrastinators, I never directly target the hoarding and procrastinating, because they very often stem from deep fear or even trauma and they are protective strategies.
I usually ask my clients to report any significant dreams at the beginning of each session. I love to work with dreams as they are good indicators of what is happening at a very deep unconscious level.
So John told me about the dream he had had the night before:
“I see myself sleeping under a truck, the truck is slowly sinking into the mud, but I am sleeping…… I am going to get trapped under the truck.”
What struck me in that dream was that he was dissociated, he saw himself, and he was watching, distraught and panicked, a part of himself sleeping under the truck. It was a rather descriptive representation of his real life situation: a lot of things were pressuring him, weighing on him and he was not able to face them and act. He was passive but something had to happen as it had become life-threatening. (He had been concerned about various physical symptoms.)
I asked him to close his eyes and step back into the dream. I asked him to just watch what was happening and tell me.
John was surprised because the part of him under the truck (we will call it his “ECHO” - a Matrix Reimprinting term - it can be a child part, a part frozen in time because of trauma, or another part) didn’t care, he was just sleeping.
So we just did some regular EFT tapping on all the elements of the situation.
John tapping on himself as the witness in the dream and his emotions and sensations about the dangerous situation his ECHO was in, in the dream, and his fear and anxiety that his ECHO might die, crushed by the truck.
When the SUDs came down to a zero, I asked him what he wanted to do.
He said he wanted so much to save his ECHO; he wanted to pull him out from under the truck while there was still time: otherwise he would be crushed and die. (I just observed John and didn’t influence him in any way. I thought it was a positive reaction in the light of his usual inability to take action; what was also valuable was that he had identified with the witness position, active, strong and conscious.)
I told him to go ahead and pull his ECHO out.
He pulled on his ECHO and got most of him out, but his feet were still trapped.
So we did some more regular EFT tapping on the different emotions and sensations he was having right then, the fact that the legs were still trapped and his ECHO was still sleeping, and the truck still sinking. When the SUDs had gone down, I asked him what he wanted to do.
John was very surprised and annoyed that his ECHO was not waking up. For John, his ECHO was “saved and alive” but still sleeping. “He doesn’t want to wake up.” “He is 95% asleep.”
I asked him how he felt about it and what he wanted to do next.
He said, “I want to pull him out completely.” So he pulled his ECHO out and he finally woke up. He began looking around, realizing the danger he had just escaped.
We can see here that John was connecting with the part of him that was “asleep.”
I asked John to acknowledge that his ECHO needed to protect himself by being asleep and be 95% unconscious all this time, that it was alright and to see what his ECHO needed next.
“He needs a boost of energy to see things clearly, to make decisions. He is tired of being in the fog.”
We started tapping. I was tapping on John and John was virtually tapping on his ECHO after introducing himself and asking permission.
“Even though you were sleeping… you didn’t see you were in danger, you were in a fog… you are a wonderful man”… we were both speaking to the ECHO. (see MR protocol)
When we finished, I asked him to bring in the energy that the ECHO needed.
John felt an incredible rush of “high energy” (his exact words) and this “high energy” had the special power to help him to step back and see things more clearly (a kind of heightened awareness maybe).
He felt a huge flow of energy, made of different colors coming down into his mind, and he sent it to his heart (see the MR protocol). John felt it very deeply, all around him but also under his skin. It made him shiver. He experienced a long series of sensations flowing through his body.
He took all the time he needed to integrate this new energy into his own body, all the while tapping on the gamut point. (MR protocol) He brought this energy into his heart, and into the cells of his body, and finally reimprinted it in the Matrix (I am omitting the details of the MR technique but the moment of reimprinting is a very special, beautiful and meaningful moment.)
The session on this dream was pivotal and opened a whole new chapter in my work with John. He started to move, to act, to wake up in his own life. He began to take care of his health too, and the fogginess, the depression lifted. (He confided in this same session that he experienced bouts of depression all his life which he never had mentioned before, even in his full intake form.)
He had been definitely dissociated at some deep level from a “sleepy part of himself” which was running the show from deep down. He remembered dissociating as a young boy, going into his mind, behind his eyes in a lost place that was so scary for him. “As a young boy, I was lost in my mind… and couldn’t find my way back. I thought I was crazy.”
I think the dream was a wonderful opportunity for him to re-connect and re-associate on a deep somatic level with a part of himself (represented in the dream as the ECHO under the sinking truck) who was dissociated and manifested as asleep, passive, the part which didn’t see what was going on. The previous interventions from friends and family to solve his hoarding couldn’t reach this sleepy part separated from his conscious mind.
The 5 EFT sessions before this one prepared him to feel safe for that opening.
To give some context, John grew up with parents who were very fearful of everything. So everything was judged risky and scary. They created a very, very safe environment but somewhat lifeless. It is so crucial to let young toddlers and children explore, take risks, express their “libidinal” forces, their impulses to act, their desires, which are the expression of the will to live (so essential for all of us but in particular for boys and all kinesthetic people).
It had not been possible for John to have free access to this life surge, movement and impulse and his dream expressed it beautifully. He was burying, armoring, deadening himself under all the objects he hoarded, “in case one day” he would become fully alive.
This moment came and it was very moving watching him blossom from week to week.
A few months later after more EFT and Matrix Reimprinting sessions, parts work, dream work, he is really transformed, the hoarding has been almost totally cleared, he is acting and moving forward.
We are still working on fears as they emerge. But he woke up!
Last Updated: Monday, 22 December 2014 18:56
EFT Offers Detox Relief
Dear EFT Community,
EFT Master, Loretta Sparks, reveals how she uses EFT tapping for detoxing with examples from a client's withdrawal from migraine medication and another client suffering the after-effects of binge drinking.
By Loretta Sparks, MFT, EFT MAS-3
For the past 20 plus years I have been treating alcoholics, addicts, and their families at an in-and-out patient facility for a large HMO in Southern California. About six years ago I started integrating EFT into the work I do there. As anyone who has treated addicted individuals can attest, it ain't easy work!
However, EFT can make a big difference in increasing treatment effectiveness.
I'd like to share a couple of experiences I've had using EFT for addiction.
I was asked by one of our physicians to see a 77-year-old woman who was having a very difficult detox from the migraine medication she had been taking for years. She was in a lot of discomfort from the withdrawal of her painkillers and was in the throes of a migraine.
We first did a number of tapping rounds on the withdrawal symptoms focusing on the patient's fear of the sensations/discomfort in her body and her loss of the only help she had for her migraines, her painkillers. We got her SUD Level of discomfort down from a 9 to 2. Because our time was limited, I suggested at that point that we address her migraine. She agreed. Her migraine was at a SUD Level of 10.
Because her head hurt too much to tap, we concentrated the tapping on the collarbone, under arm, and back of hand treatment points. In less that 5 minutes of treatment, the migraine was essentially gone. She saw me after discharge from inpatient and reported that the "tapping" was the most effective treatment she received in the hospital. Her headache had not returned. A couple of times it started to return and she tapped it out.
The second experience I wanted to share was in the form of a phone call (around 10:30 at night) from a colleague who had taken an EFT workshop from me. He had just been released from the hospital ER where he was taken as a result of a binge drinking episode. He felt terrible, tremulous, head hurting, and with a generalized feeling of malaise. His knowledge of EFT made it easy to assist him over the phone.
Alcohol often floods the system with sugar and the detox (withdrawal) process can leave the body craving it with symptoms similar to those of hypoglycemia.
I asked him first to go drink a large glass of orange juice (natural sugar) and then come back to the phone. When he returned, I lead him through the EFT tapping protocol twice. By the time we finished, he was steady, his head did not hurt, and he was tired and wanting to go to bed.
EFT allowed me not only to reduce these people's discomfort, but also to enable them to learn the awesome healing power of their own bodies.