EFT Releases the Blade of Guilt Behind Chronic Pain
By Glenda Payne, EFT Practitioner
This client, I'll refer to her here as Tabitha to protect her identity and confidentiality, has been working with a professional therapist for several years on anger issues. She was the only daughter of three children raised by alcoholic parents. On her client intake form, she checked “chronic relationship challenges, chronic pain, stress/anxiety, depression and grief, low self-esteem and weight issues” as categories that she wants to work on.
She became disabled due to depression and fibromyalgia in 1998. It took 7 years for her disability to become approved. Through further dysfunctional family dynamics, she developed PTSD, making her health issues even more complicated.
When we began exploring specific issues she wished to work on that day, she mentioned that she had a very close friend of 9 years. But with all of the crises and subsequent stress Tabitha was under, they had a falling out and were unable to resolve the situation before her friend passed away.
As I was pondering what to approach first, Tabitha said that after her friend passed away leaving their conflict unresolved, she began to feel as if there were a blade causing pressure and painful headaches. The blade began just to the left of her nose and ran all the way down to her groin. She’d had brain scans because the pressure was severe at times and she had also developed arrhythmia. Subsequent medical tests, including brain scan, showed no physical cause for the pressure and pain and her heart appeared normal and healthy. So we started with this.
First, I demonstrated all of the tapping points, including the finger points. I had her describe the blade in detail, asking pointed questions about the color, shape, size, and material that made up the blade. She described it as about an inch wide, going all the way through her body to her back. It was an iron-gray color and felt like it was made of steel.
I asked her to close her eyes and focus in on the blade. I told her to ask the blade if it had a message for her. I then said, “When I snap my fingers, open your eyes and tell me the first thing that pops into your head.” Her answer was “Stop!” She said she did not know what it meant. I asked her in general what the “feel” of the blade was, as in protective or antagonistic. She said, “No, it feels like a wound.”
Before beginning round 1, I asked her how much she believed the statement “I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” At this time, she was uncomfortable with it. So for this first session, we worked with simply accepting herself and her feelings.
Before starting to tap in round one, she stated that her SUD level on the blade was 9. We used the Setup Statement:
Even though I have this wound from my head down to my groin…
I have this wound, and even with that I accept myself completely.
This blade is in my body, I feel it and I accept myself deeply and completely anyway.
Tabitha was very responsive to the tapping and, after just one round, her SUD score reduced significantly. We tapped on all of the aspects of the blade: the color, shape, size, and the feel of the metal causing pressure in her body.
After two more rounds with her SUD level reducing by a point after each one, I had her close her eyes and connect with the blade pressure once again. I had her ask, “Are you friend or foe?” The answer was foe. I did some Reiki energy work around her head and upper torso. I then asked, “What do you want to have happen? Do you want this blade gone?” She replied, “Yes.”
I had her close her eyes again. I told her I was going to count from three to one and snap my fingers. “When I do, I want you to tell me the first thing that comes into your head. Three, two, one, snap!” Her first word was “Mom.” She giggled nervously and said, “That’s not what I was expecting.”
I then asked her to complete the sentence, “I accepted this blade because…,” three, two, one, snap! She replied, “Guilt!” I then asked, “Where do you feel guilt in your body?”
We tapped, thoroughly exploring all the aspects she could feel in her body when she focused in on the guilt and her mom. She was able to recall a specific childhood event when her grandma punished her for sassing back to her mom, which she then felt guilty for doing. We ran the Movie Technique until she was able to view the scene all the way through with SUD 0 on all aspects of the event and on the guilt she felt after being punished.
As we reassessed after that round, I asked, “What do you feel now in your body?” She replied, “It feels a lot better.” I asked, “Where is the blade?” She said, “It’s down to a 2.” We celebrated the 2 with “Yay!” and some applause.
She described that the blade had shrunken all the way down to just a spot that was coming out of her shoulder blades.
We did one more round on that spot between her shoulder blades. I then had her tune in to the blade again. She reported that the blade was all gone and her SUD level was 0. I had her go back into the feelings she had about losing her friend before their conflict was resolved. She remained at SUD 0.
I said, “Great! Now we are going to fill up the empty space with Light.”
We did the final round on:
Even though there is an empty space where the blade was, I choose to fill it up with Light.
Even though there is an empty space where the blade used to be….
There is nothing left
And in its place, there’s just the Light
I can access that Light anytime I need it
Always there and always available
I am filled with Light and I feel great
I feel great
At the end, she said, “Wow! It’s gone!” Her SUD level on blade and guilt was 0. Her final SUD score on the pain, pressure, and guilt was 0.
We discussed setting up future sessions and that she needed to drink lots of water and be gentle with herself for the coming week. I asked her to pay attention to how she was navigating in the world and notice what was different. I gave her a homework assignment of daily connecting with the Light and visualizing it filling up the space and moving through. I told her to just let her feelings flow freely through her with full acceptance.
I checked back in with her at her following session and the blade was still gone! She had even “expected” it to return, but it didn’t. I am extremely pleased with the client’s results from this first session. She was very pleased at how quickly and easily things moved through. She felt calmer and more relaxed than she had in years. She was very excited to schedule more sessions.